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    Lord (a style, not a single rank)

    How to Address a Lord

    Lord is a style shared by several different positions, not a rank of its own. In almost every case you say Lord [Title] and open a letter Dear Lord [Title]. The envelope is The Lord [Title] for a peer, or Lord [Forename] [Surname] for a younger son of a duke or marquess.

    The forms at a glance

    Correct forms of address for a Lord (a style, not a single rank)
    SituationCorrect form
    SpokenLord [Title] for a peer; Lord [Forename] [Surname] for a younger son of a duke or marquess, shortened in later conversation to Lord [Forename].
    Written salutationDear Lord [Title], or Dear Lord [Forename] where the style is a courtesy style borne with a forename.
    EnvelopeThe Lord [Title] for a peer. Lord [Forename] [Surname] for a courtesy lord. Privy Counsellor: The Rt Hon. the Lord [Title].
    Formal introductionMay I present Lord [Title].
    SpouseThe wife of a peer styled Lord [Title] is Lady [Title]. The wife of a courtesy Lord [Forename] [Surname] is Lady [Forename] [Surname].
    ChildrenChildren of a baron or viscount are The Hon. [Forename] [Surname]; children of higher-ranking peers may hold courtesy styles of their own.

    Lord is a style, not a rank

    The most common misunderstanding in British forms of address is that lord is a rank. It is not. It is a style — a form of address — attached to several different positions, some of them peerages, some of them courtesy styles, some of them offices. Two people both correctly called Lord may hold entirely different dignities, and the correct way to write to them differs accordingly.

    The peerage of the United Kingdom has five degrees, in descending order: duke, marquess, earl, viscount and baron. Every one of them is addressed differently in speech, in the opening of a letter and on an envelope, and the differences are not decorative — they are the practical shorthand by which a correspondent shows they know which office or dignity they are writing to.

    In practice, Lord [Title] is the spoken style of a baron, a viscount, an earl and a marquess. A duke is not addressed as Lord: he is Duke, or Your Grace. Beyond the peerage, the style attaches to the younger sons of dukes and marquesses, who are Lord [Forename] [Surname], and to certain offices, including the Lord Mayor, the Lord Chancellor and the Lord Chief Justice, which are addressed by office rather than by peerage form.

    Working out which kind of lord you are addressing

    The quickest diagnostic is the shape of the name. Lord followed by a place or surname alone — Lord Ashby, Lord Hartfield — indicates a peer. Lord followed by a forename and surname — Lord Edward Hartfield — indicates the younger son of a duke or marquess holding a courtesy style. The difference matters: shortening Lord Edward Hartfield to Lord Hartfield is a real error, because it promotes him to a peerage he does not hold.

    A second diagnostic is the envelope. A peer takes the definite article: The Lord Ashby. A courtesy lord does not: Lord Edward Hartfield. If you are unsure, the House of Lords members' directory resolves peerages, and a current peerage reference resolves courtesy styles.

    Speaking to a lord

    For a peer, say Lord [Title]. For a courtesy lord, say Lord [Forename] [Surname] on first address and Lord [Forename] thereafter. Neither should be repeated in every sentence; British usage acknowledges a style once and then proceeds.

    My Lord belongs to formal registers — the courts, certain parliamentary and ceremonial settings, some institutional occasions — and is not the ordinary social form. Your Lordship is narrower still. Used at a drinks reception, both sound theatrical.

    Written correspondence

    Open Dear Lord [Title] for a peer and Dear Lord [Forename] for a courtesy lord. Close Yours sincerely. Where the letter is formal and you have no acquaintance with the recipient, My Lord with Yours faithfully is still correct, and remains common in petitions and submissions to peers acting in a parliamentary capacity.

    Email has not created a separate set of rules. The salutation is the same; only the length changes. What email has changed is frequency, which makes consistency more visible: if you open Dear Lord Ashby, do not sign off with a bare first name in the same message.

    The envelope and invitations

    For a peer: The Lord [Title], with The Rt Hon. the Lord [Title] for a Privy Counsellor, and post-nominal letters after the name. For a younger son of a duke or marquess: Lord [Forename] [Surname], with no definite article. A couple is The Lord and Lady [Title], or Lord and Lady [Forename] [Surname] in the courtesy case.

    Where a peer holds an office that carries its own form — Lord Mayor, Lord Chancellor, a Lord of Appeal — the office form is used when writing to them in that capacity, and the peerage form is used socially.

    Offices, courtesy styles and the House of Lords

    Membership of the House of Lords and possession of the style Lord are not the same thing, and they have grown further apart. The Upper House now comprises life peers together with the bishops who sit as Lords Spiritual, and the latter are addressed as bishops and archbishops rather than by peerage forms. Following the House of Lords (Hereditary Peers) Act 2026, a hereditary peerage no longer confers membership of the House by virtue of heredity; the dignities themselves continue, and their holders keep their titles and their forms of address. A great many people correctly styled Lord — courtesy lords, and holders of Scottish feudal or manorial dignities of quite different character — likewise have no seat. Membership is therefore no guide at all to how a person should be addressed.

    Lord of the Manor is not a peerage and does not entitle the holder to be addressed as Lord [Surname]. Nor does the purchase of a manorial title, a souvenir plot or a novelty certificate confer any style whatsoever. This is worth stating plainly because the commercial market in such items relies heavily on the ambiguity of a single word.

    Context and edge cases

    Scottish practice differs in several respects. A Lord of Session is addressed by judicial style; a Lord of Parliament is the Scottish equivalent of a baron, and Scottish feudal barons are styled Baron of [Place] rather than Lord. In Northern Ireland and in Commonwealth realms, local conventions overlay the same basic structure.

    The Barony of Brattleby is a title of honour recorded in The London Gazette and historically associated with Brattleby in Lincolnshire; it is not a property, estate or visitor attraction. Honorary and courtesy styles used within the House are described as such on this site, and we do not represent them as substantive peerages.

    Worked examples

    • Letter to a peer

      Dear Lord Ashby, — I write on behalf of the trustees regarding the March lecture. — Yours sincerely, …

    • Letter to a courtesy lord

      Dear Lord Edward, — Thank you for your kind invitation. — Yours sincerely, …

    • Envelope, peer

      The Rt Hon. the Lord Ashby, KBE

    • Envelope, younger son of a duke

      Lord Edward Hartfield

    • Invitation to a couple

      The Lord and Lady Ashby

    Common mistakes

    • Treating Lord as a rank between other ranks

      Lord is a style shared by barons, viscounts, earls, marquesses and certain courtesy holders.

    • Shortening Lord Edward Hartfield to Lord Hartfield

      Keep the forename — dropping it implies a peerage he does not hold.

    • Addressing a duke as Lord [Title]

      A duke is Duke or Your Grace; the style Lord is not used for him.

    • Assuming every Lord sits in the House of Lords

      Most peers do not sit; courtesy lords and feudal title holders never did.

    • Using My Lord socially

      Reserve My Lord for courts and strictly formal or ceremonial settings.

    Frequently asked questions

    Is Lord a rank?
    No. It is a style used by several ranks — baron, viscount, earl and marquess — as well as by younger sons of dukes and marquesses and by certain offices.
    How do I know if someone is a peer or a courtesy lord?
    Look at the name. Lord [Title] with no forename indicates a peer; Lord [Forename] [Surname] indicates a courtesy style held by a younger son of a duke or marquess.
    How do I open a letter to a lord?
    Dear Lord [Title], or Dear Lord [Forename] for a courtesy lord. My Lord with Yours faithfully remains correct for strictly formal letters.
    Does buying a manorial title make someone a lord?
    No. Lord of the Manor is not a peerage and confers no style of address; novelty land or title certificates confer nothing at all.
    Is a duke ever addressed as Lord?
    Not in ordinary usage. A duke is addressed as Duke or Your Grace, and the style Lord belongs to the four ranks below him.
    What about bishops who sit in the Lords?
    Lords Spiritual are addressed by ecclesiastical form — Bishop or Archbishop — not by peerage style, even though they sit in the House.

    Verification note

    Conventions vary by setting, and many people hold a personal preference that differs from the textbook form. For high-stakes official, parliamentary or diplomatic correspondence, confirm the recipient's current preferred style with their office before you write.

    This page is Brattleby editorial guidance. It is not an official publication of, and is not endorsed or affiliated with, Debrett's, Burke's, the College of Arms, Parliament, the Royal Household or any government body. The following sources can be used to verify the conventions described.

    Related guides

    This guide covers etiquette. For what the rank is, where it sits in the peerage and what it means today, see British nobility ranks and titles.

    Need guidance for a specific occasion?

    Seating a mixed delegation, drafting an invitation list or writing to an office rather than a person raises questions no general guide can settle. The Protocol Office of the House answers written enquiries, and the Education programme covers protocol in more depth.

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